Episode 20: Discovering Glimmers: The Bright Side of Life

What Are Glimmers?

Contrary to what you might think, we’re not talking about sparkly vampires! Glimmers are the opposite of triggers. They are small moments when our biology is in a state of connection or regulation, signaling to our nervous system that we feel safe and calm. This concept was introduced by Deb Dana, a clinical social worker, in her 2018 book, Polyvagal Theory in Therapy.

Why Are Glimmers Important?

While triggers often make us feel unsafe or anxious, glimmers help us connect with feelings of peace and happiness. Recently, the idea of embracing glimmers has gained significant traction on social media, especially TikTok, with videos receiving thousands of likes and comments. This shift in conversation highlights the importance of focusing not just on what triggers us but also on what brings us joy.

Finding Your Glimmers

So, what are your glimmers? Here are some examples to consider:

  • Naps: A cozy nap with a gentle breeze and your favorite furry friend can be a perfect glimmer.
  • Reading: Getting lost in a good book, especially in a hammock during summer, can be incredibly soothing.
  • Nature: Spending time at the beach or simply enjoying your garden can uplift your spirits.
  • Music: Listening to your favorite upbeat songs can instantly change your mood. For example, Paramore’s After Laughter album has been a go-to for many.

Personal Glimmers

Both Traci and Eric shared their personal glimmers during the episode:

  • Traci: Enjoys kitty snuggles, reading, and the tranquility of a quiet morning alone.
  • Eric: Finds joy in biking, swimming, and the refreshing feeling of being near water.

The Power of Glimmers in Everyday Life

Recognizing your glimmers can be a game-changer. Here’s why:

  • Boosts Happiness: By identifying moments that bring you joy, you can actively seek them out, increasing your overall happiness.
  • Offsets Triggers: When you encounter a trigger, having a list of glimmers can help you regain your balance and mood.
  • Simple Pleasures: Glimmers often come from simple, everyday experiences—like a smile from a stranger or the warmth of a loved one’s voice.

How to Cultivate Glimmers

Finding glimmers may require some reflection, but once you identify your first, more will follow. Here are some tips:

  • Keep a Journal: Write down your glimmers as you discover them. This will help you remember and revisit them when needed.
  • Make It a Game: Challenge yourself to find a certain number of glimmers each day.
  • Share with Others: Discuss your glimmers with friends or family to inspire them to find their own.

Upcoming Episode: The Stigma Around Aging

In two weeks, we’ll be diving into a new topic: the stigma around aging. Eric and Traci are excited about this discussion, even though they’re unsure where it will lead. It promises to be a thought-provoking episode that you won’t want to miss!

Conclusion

In a world often focused on negativity and triggers, it’s essential to shift our perspective and embrace the glimmers that bring us joy. By recognizing and nurturing these moments, we can enhance our well-being and lead happier lives.

Let’s make a conscious effort to focus on the positives and seek out our glimmers. After all, wouldn’t you rather spend more time happy than unhappy?

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